Who should I choose for my bridesmaids?

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Who should I choose for my bridesmaids?

For some bride-to-be’s it is easy to choose a bridal party, but for others it can be a real struggle.  If you are a bride who is struggling to choose your bridesmaids, then this blog is for you!  There are so many decisions to make when you are planning a wedding.  The number of bridesmaids you have will have an impact on so many other things too…the number of boys you need to pair them up with, the transport, table set up, the hens night, kitchen tea…etc.  Your wedding budget will also be affected.  Think dresses, hair, make-up, jewellery, shoes, spray-tans and more.   The bigger the bridal party, generally the more expenses associated with the wedding.  Think about who are you going to choose, how and why?

Don’t rush your decision, make the right one…

Your bridesmaids are such an integral part of your wedding day and should play an important part in your life if you are giving them the honour of being a part of your special day.  They are the girls you should be able to call upon when you need help planning your wedding, and be your “team bride” on the wedding day to assist with everything to make sure the day runs perfectly for you.  Even after 12 years of marriage, my bridesmaids are a huge part of my life, and my bond with them is very special. The memories and special little “girly” moments that happen on the wedding day are priceless and precious.  Don’t make a quick decision, think it through and consider all the elements of your wedding.

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“Go with your initial gut instinct! Be honest with yourself and your future husband about the choices you make.”
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Bridesmaids – Family & Friends

Some brides get caught up in a situation where they have a large family and it becomes a dilemma as to who to choose, and who might get offended if they are not asked to be a part of the bridal party ! Yet they know in their heart that they are closer with a particular sister, a cousin or a future sister-in-law, than some of the other family members. It becomes a really emotional decision. You know you are potentially going to hurt someone’s feelings if you don’t include them, but at the same time you know you won’t feel 100% comfortable to have them there on your special day. It can add a lot of stress during the wedding planning process.

The same thing applies if you have a big network of close friends. “How on earth am I going to choose between them? I want them all to celebrate my special day, but there is no way we can afford to have such a huge bridal party… help!”

At the end of the day, it’s your wedding day. You and only you can decide what is right for you. So many people will give you their advice and opinions about what you should do and who you should include. This may only confuse and frustrate you further.

What’s important to you?

What is really important is to imagine your wedding day with your bridesmaids in it- How do you feel? Are they the most supportive and loving people you know? Do you think that they will play an important part in your daily life in the future? Are they people who will not only support you in the wedding planning process (and put on the best Hen’s night ever for you !) but also be there for you when the “SH*T hits the fan” and things get tough in your life?

Don’t just think about the “now”, think about the future too, and the role these people will play in your life in the long term.

Yes things change, yes people change, but you know your family and your friends well enough to know the truth about who they are now.

Go with your initial gut instinct! Be honest with yourself and your future husband about the choices you make. It’s also important to be honest with the people that you don’t choose and explain to them that it is a tough decision, and that you have given it a lot of thought, consideration and time. Explain that you still value their friendship/family connection, and believe that they will have the maturity to respect your decisions. That is a true test of friendship/family.

Trust that everything will work out…you will pick the perfect bridal party

Have faith that the decision you make will be the right one! When you look back at your wedding album, and the pictures on the walls in your house, you want to think back and say “I love my bridesmaids, and I’m so glad they were a part of my special day.” Have no regrets, bad feelings or guilt about who you choose.

Do what feels right – and you can’t go wrong ! Good luck.

 

PS  We would love to hear your comments below…or feel free to share this blog with a bride-to-be in need.

With love,  Aneta xxx

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